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Eileen is the blogger behind The Autism Cafe. She has a degree in literature and foreign languages from a French university. She has high-functioning autism and is the mother of two little boys, one of whom has severe classic, nonverbal autism. She hopes to raise autism awareness and wants readers of her blog to better understand the many facets of autism. In her free time, she likes photography and styling outfits for her two boys.

April is Autism Awareness Month. The Autism Society has observed National Autism Awareness Month since the 1970s in order to create an increased understanding of autism, a disorder of neural development characterized by impaired social interaction and communication, and by restricted and repetitive behavior.

This month provides a special opportunity to educate the public about autism and related issues. If your child was recently diagnosed with autism, you’re likely feeling a wealth of emotions. From sadness to relief, I've felt them all. I wish a guide to raising a child with autism accompanied a diagnosis, but all we got was a few phone numbers to call coupled with an outdated and overwhelming "autism manual."

But from one autism mom to another, I'd like to share ten tips for raising a child with autism. Keep in mind that all children on the autism spectrum are unique, but these tips should apply to all nonetheless.

  1. Look into therapy.
    There's really no shame in getting your child into therapy. Getting an official diagnosis will allow your child to qualify for all kinds of therapy (speech therapy, occupational therapy, DIR therapy, and ABA therapy). Do some research, make calls, and find what therapy looks best for your child. We do ABA therapy and speech therapy. While still non-verbal, Charlie has made great progress in other areas (including communicating with an iPad app) which wouldn't have happened without his amazing therapists. Don't hesitate to shop around to find the therapy center that fits your child's needs the best. It's a big decision, so don't be afraid to be picky!

  2. Develop a routine.
    A fixed schedule is important for a child on the autism spectrum. Most autistic children do not like when their routine is disrupted. They like to know what's coming. Transitions are hard too, so use a timer if you have to change activity. Tell your child, "Okay, in one minute we're going to go back inside." It may not work right away but if you're consistent, they'll understand the concept of a timer and it will decrease you and your child's frustration while transitioning from one activity to another.

  3. Take time to celebrate.
    Your child may be delayed developmentally. His or her milestones and successes may be different from their peers – and different from what your friends are recognizing in their kids – but they're totally worth celebrating, no matter how small! Praise all of your child's victories. The first time Charlie said the sound "buh" for bubbles when he was three, we celebrated. Your child is developing on their own timeline and that's OK!

  1. Prioritize one-on-one time.
    Take the time to spend quality time with your child. I know it can be difficult because they may not even want you to play with them, but do it anyway. Take him or her to the park. Don't stay home because it's easier. I made that mistake in the beginning. You have to confront the outside world, even if it's overwhelming and scary for you both. It'll get easier. Let them explore like you would if you had a neuro-typical child.

  2. Support other parents.
    Autism can be isolating. I know this first-hand. It's important for you to find people you can talk to – people who are going through the same thing as you and who "get it." Finding support groups online or in your local area is important.

  3. Don't compare. 
    This is hard because you see your friends’ children doing the things you'd pictured yourself doing with your kiddo. They're celebrating different milestones but it doesn't mean you shouldn't celebrate yours (see no. 3). Just keep reminding yourself that comparison is the thief of joy.

  1. Praise your child.
    Most kids on the autism spectrum understand and love positive reinforcement, even if they don't always show it. Congratulate them! Make them feel proud of their accomplishments!

  2. Take care of yourself.
    This is really important. I struggle with this myself but you need to feel good in order to be able to care for your child who may require extra attention. Once in a while, leave the kiddos with a trusted caregiver or babysitter and do something you like. Whether it's hanging out with your friends, going to Target, or going to the gym, do something that makes you happy. You deserve a break! You need it to function at your best.

  3. Ignore negative or ignorant people.
    You will inevitably meet people who will say things like, "Oh, but he's so cute, are you sure he's autistic?" or "Autism is just a new trend," or "He just needs a good spanking." Don't let these comments get to you and concentrate on the positive. Focus on your child, focus on yourself, and focus on all the other people in your life who "get it" and support you in your journey.

  4. Utilize free resources.
    There are many free resources and programs for children on the autism spectrum. Programs like DADS and DARS have long waiting lists but they're worth it. There's also respite care, Early Childhood Intervention if your child is under three, and free preschool programs for children with disabilities. It will vary from state to state, so ask around or consult your child's doctor!

Remember, 1 in 68 children has autism.

If your child doesn't have autism, chances are you probably know someone who has an autistic child, or you will at some point. If you're wondering how you can be supportive of your friend, it's simple. Don't act too awkward, don't change the subject, and ask questions about things you don't understand. Be compassionate, kind, and a good listener. The worst thing you can do is ignore your friend. There are definitely a few things I would have loved to hear after my son was diagnosed.

What are some helpful things to say to a friend whose child was just diagnosed with autism?

  • "They are still the same child you've always known. Getting a diagnosis and putting a label on them doesn't change who they isare It's a tool to get them therapy and the extra help they need."
  • "What are you up to today? Can I stop by with a pizza?"
  • "Let me know if there's anything I can do. You are in my thoughts and your child is lucky to have you as his advocate."

Autism can be isolating, but it doesn't have to be.

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Dr. Dawne Chandler
Dr. Dawne Chandler 14 Apr 16:00

Enjoyed your article! Your readers might be interested in a fun children’s picture book (English and Spanish) that I wrote and is available on Amazon.com in paperback or kindle that supports your points #3-Take time to celebrate and #7-Praise your child. It a tale about a little boy with autism and what he can do. By Dawne Chandler called: Simply True: A tale about Autism and what a little boy can do. Here is a link if you want to see what is inside. Hope it is helpful and brings smiles! https://www.amazon.com/Simply-True-about-Autism-little/dp/1515067076/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1492199090&sr=8-2&keywords=dawne+chandler

Jacqueline Ortiz
Jacqueline Ortiz 13 Apr 10:13

Best article ever!!!! My daughter was diagnose almost 2 yrs ago and these are the type of words that I would of loved to have heard back then. Even now I enjoyed since it sort of give me a checklist of tips your suggesting. Theses are tips are great and I am on the right page. They are exactly what you need to do and keep in mind. However, I do need to take care of myself it just gets so hard.

trés beaux articles merci

This was great! Love the pizza comment too ?
Thank you for sharing these helpful insights.

Very interesting !! Thanks ??

Christiemontaye 11 Apr 16:50

J apprécie beaucoup ..c est très intéressant ..merci pour ces articles …

Cet articles est formidable ! Merci !

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